September 13, 2013
We need professional partners, and not just fee for service providers. And we need to be invested in the relationships, and active in providing information, helping to define problems, evaluating proposed solutions, etc.
This post began in response to a question about choosing an attorney for a new business or non-profit organization. Several other people had offered advice about paying attention to the attorney’s specialities, about the size and responsiveness of their organization, etc. I agreed with all of this, but suggested looking not just at the provider, but about the kind of relationship required.
Here’s what I wrote in that post:
I believe there’s more. Your relationship with your attorneys (there may be more than one!) must be a partnership. It’s not just a fee for service. Setting up the corporation, protecting trademarks, etc. is not that complex. But finding the right guidance moving forward, managing risk, defining business relationships . . . these can be complex and interesting.
I’d ask each potential attorney (or firm), “What will you want from me? What’s going to be my role in making this relationship work?” Listen carefully, to see if their response sounds like the foundation of a helpful and productive partnership.
I might note that the same questions are very relevant in interviewing potential consultants, advertising agencies, web developers . . . all your business partners.
Are you willing to nourish and value that relationship? Can you hear the guidance and advice that will be offered, and still remain an active partner in deciding how to proceed. Can you stake responsibility for steering your ship, even as you gather information and ideas from all of your “crew”?
September 11, 2013
The best way to shares our lives. or visions, our dreams, our fears . . . is by telling stories. And one of the best ways to do the same things about our organizations (profit or non-profit) is to tell stories. Opening ourselves to a story telling mindset is very adaptive.
Recently I was mentoring somebody who was very conflicted about whether to proceed on a certain path. He wasn’t clear that he wanted to reach that destination, and was equally unclear whether the words associated with the celebration of that path were words he could say with integrity.
I was in no position to offer advice. I couldn’t know which direction was preferable, and, besides, i was his “mentor” but not his guide. it would have been appropriate for me to even try to chart his course.
But I could offer the following process:
- Tell me a story about following that path and where it takes you.
- Then, tell me another story about standing back, and not following that path. Where does that leave you?
Note that neither of these were requests to analyze, measure, or weigh. He’d done that a lot already, and that process only added to the inner conflict. Instead, I was asking him to let stories flow — and, indeed, they did.
It quickly became clear that the words associated with the certification were a crucial concern. The destination might have been right, but the words were an obstacle.
Again, story telling was the way forward. I asked him to create a story of a certification process that had resonance, with words he could easily say and stand behind. Then, I suggested, he might explore how much freedom he would have to use his words and his process.
I never heard that story, and don’t know exactly what pathway opened up. But he was able to follow a solid path to that destination, and I do know that he found the clarity he sought.
Did it matter that I never heard the inward part of this story? Not at all! Some stories are meant to guide us, and not to inform the rest of the world.
The same kinds of stories can guide non-profit organization and even for-profit corporations as they plan program, product lines, service offerings, etc. I recall vividly one occasion where I was asked to help re-design some software — following guidelines that intuitively seemed quite wrong to me. I spent several days watching their staff using the current software as they talked on the phone with their customers or clients, and listening to both sides of each phone call. Finally I was able to blurt out a very simple version of what seemed like the iconic story behind each interaction. The staff was thrilled to hear it stated so simply, and found that the story we had exposed led directly to a greatly improved and simplified version of the software.
As I look forward to each dialog with a client or prospect, with a non-profit board member or concerned stakeholder, with a troubled director or an engaged staff member, the five words that are almost always at the tip of my tongue are, “Tell me a story, about . . .”
September 11, 2013
Recently I was asked to comment about how best to engage donors to a nonprofit.
My answer — Ask the right questions. Decide what conversation you’d like to have, and figure out what QUESTIONS will start that off. Donors like to be listened to, like to be heard, and like to be treated as important. Asking the right questions, and then listening carefully will make a huge difference.